COMMENTARY · 12th December 2013
Originally published October 12, 2012
I cry for Amanda but more for our world. Those who attempt to express truth are sacrificed by virtually all. The insecurity foisted on every child by our societies demand to have vain substance valued greater than all else left Amanda alone.
Very few parents teach strength to their children. The reason is basic; the parents have no strength of their own. Nice clothes, a good job, a fancy car and great grammar provides companionship. Truth and the straight goods provokes animosity as it exposes the fallacy of our entire society.
The western world; Canada, the USA, Australia and the European Union depend on stupidity and vanity.
We raise our children to cope in a world of lies. Our parents lie to hide uncomfortable truths and political leadership lie to keep their jobs. Industry lies to keep their profits and children lie to appease their lying parents.
Scientist’s cover-up facts which might disprove a theory. The Egyptian Pyramids are the best example. Egyptians refuse to even entertain facts pointing to their construction earlier than the Pharaohs. They do this, continue with lies, to sustain their cultures misguided belief that their ancestors constructed them.
The USA is lying about the events of September 11 and the Government of BC is lying about the corruption and bribes behind the sale of BC Rail.
Even before a child reaches Kindergarten they learn how to manipulate the truth so they can get through their day without attacks from others. Some learn how to manipulate others to orchestrate a desired result. A young girl might whisper in the ear of another to get a small group to terrorize someone this child was offended by.
This behaviour is learned before the age of five as the children listen to their parents conversations, on the phone or even in the same room. Men and women of our society engage in conversations with each other in complete insecurity. We denigrate, degrade and demonize others behind their backs in an effort to raise our own self importance in the eyes of others.
This is the sad state of affairs that has led to the suicide death of yet another child.
We are all to blame.
BC Premier Christy Clark is as much to blame for this child’s death as are the children who are being singled out for bullying Amanda. The children are not to blame, they simply learned from Premier Clark and her ilk.
Clark has lied and bullied. Her and her forerunner, Gordon Campbell, are rewarded for being completely untruthful and for forcing their will on others. They are not alone.
Overly self conscious people, insecure, vulnerable, weak people are the backbone of our society; those who cannot and will not speak up for themselves and the truth they know.
We are generally afraid to be attacked by a malicious bully, one who might employ other weak kneed insecure hacks to insinuate sly and insidious actions against us. So we all hide in our homes flicking the remote control laughing at incessant non-sense, avoiding the difficult but necessary role of leadership.
Why, because from before the age of five, and enforced throughout our grade school experiences, keeping quiet and lying provides the best rewards; socially and financially.
There is nothing we can do for Amanda and likely there will be many copy cat suicides as she gets notoriety.
But it is all your fault, you, your siblings, your parents and theirs.
As we write on this web medium we get hundreds if not thousands of comments from readers regarding the truth we expose, “But please don’t use my name cause I know how this town works.”
It is not this town it is our entire western world.
Today the European Union (EU) was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize. Nothing about the EU is peaceful. They are mostly a bunch of insecure liars who repeat the same time worn lies to ensure they maintain their positions of power and influence.
The police lie about the way the beat up people, the political leaders lie about how they reward contracts, the businessperson lies about their profits and losses, Japan lies about the nuclear accident, Baird lies about Syria, Harper lies to everyone and parents lies to their children about life.
It is all a farce and until we begin to address the truth, the reality of our shallow vain existence, our children will continue to find nothing worth living for.Amanda did not die from bullying behaviour;
she died because we are all a bunch of spineless insecure liars.
I dare Christy Clark and the rest of the BC Liberals to tell the truth about BC Rail and China. See, Amanda died for nothing. As Mother Teresa stated, or at least as she is quoted as stating; “It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you choose. “
No one is innocent anymore.
Rest in peace sweet child, I shed a tear for you and for all of us. As much as I wish your death was not in vain, I am afraid vanity has gotten the better of our world. 271020131172
That was Poetic
Comment by CitizenX on 28th October 2013
What a beautiful piece of writing by a beautiful mind. This is the type of person who should be running things. The exact 180 degree opposite of what we have now. Thanks for tat inspiring piece Merv. Im gonna share that with some family members.
Give support to those who need it.
Comment by Mr. Peters on 14th October 2012
Ok, well let's just get this all out of the way so you all can stop your bitching.
You people who are giving her sympathy and pity should all be ashamed of yourselves. Instead of giving pity to a girl who already committed suicide, how about you talk to that lonely kid at lunch? Yea, the one who sits all alone in the corner. But no, you'd rather sit with your friends and then come home and get on facebook and say stuff like 'Oh, how come no one helped poor Amanda, she's so pretty, why did she have to die'. Go crawl back in your shell of safety while the ones who really need help are only an arms length away.
We should be talking about the ones who were bullied and managed to survive through it all. The success stories. Because that's what gives kids hope, the ones who know what it's like to be in their shoes. The ones who have walked that road before and came out ok.
What kind of message does it send to impressionable teens that if you go ahead and kill yourself that you will get thousands of likes on a facebook page and everyone will feel sorry for you and give you attention? If you have any self respect for the future then you'd stop and think about where your morals are. If you're too confused with your emotions and common sense, then just get off the internet entirely. No one wants to read your idiotic comments and your emotion filled rage tantrums.
Give pity it to the ones who deserve it.
And as I said earlier
Comment by Merv Ritchie on 14th October 2012
Women are uniquely positioned to nurture each other. It is up to the women to assist other women to nurture their children, the future of humanity.
Those women who pander to women who think being pretty and being admired for their posessions, those who follow the bully woman, are complicit in our collective demise.
I would not want this responsibility
Comment by Merv Ritchie on 14th October 2012
From the moment of conception, a woman has the ultimate responsibility to nuture the life inside her. To expose herself to warmth, happy and joyous experiences. this is imparted to the growing child within her. When she gives birth it is her duty to hold and comfort the child, to feed it and provide it with confidence and a loving nature.
I respect and admire this but would be untruthful if I didn't say, I would not want this responsibility.
I will do everything I can to protect my family and my children from harm. I will do everything I can to ensure my woman has what she needs. But I do fear, I could not manage to handle the responsibility of providing the loving nurturing foundation for humanity every woman is charged with the responsibility for.
The men in jail, the men as abusers, the women bully's and the woman manipulators, get to look back at never being nurtured or loved. If it wasn't their mother, then maybe their mothers mother. Somewhere along this path the nurturer didn't nurture.
Yes, maybe a man might cause great grief, but where did this man begin his life?
You see, it is not a responsibility I would want.
But to blame someone else, to blame men for the failures of society is to avoid the personal responsibilty of the one who brings this life into the world.
All good parents instruct their children to take personal responsibility. It is time we all listen to our own advice and stop blaming others for the actions of our children and society.
It is time to express pure love, respect and compassion, everywhere.
Oh come on - men are powerless to stop this?
Comment by Merv Ritchie on 14th October 2012
Well one just needs to look at the stats again. 80% of sucides are male, the vast majority of those jailed are male. Whenever there is family trama the man is jailed. (except in exceptional circumstances)
Yes I have personal experience with this. What else would anyone draw knowledge from?
It is not bitter experience, nor is it regrets or failures. It is simply learning experiences.
The foundation of life is the life bringer, the female. The nurturing and feed providing the base for the beginning of a new spirit of energy, a child. The man might be present however the female, the womb, the life giver, is the foundation of everything.
Men only have power when women decide to give it to them.
To think otherwise is to ignore the foundation of life and love. Women are love and allow men to have it and feel it. Without the love of a mother, we will all fail.
Women must take back their power, and that power is not taken by the tools of men (ie force) it is taken by love and nurturing.
When women/girls act like men bullies our entire society will crumble to dust. And that is what has happened in this case with Amanda, and previously with Rena Virk.
Girls, Women, Ladies, Mothers, Daughters, Aunties, Grandmothers - you are all Matriarchs; Your insight is impeccable and your love is remarkable.
Please help your sisters to get a grip on love and help this race to recover from the present downward spiral.
Truly, what can a man do without his woman?
"Men are powerless to stop this"?
Comment by Karen Dedosenco on 14th October 2012
It sounds like you are speaking from your own (bitter?) experience Merv, and discounting all the situations where the fathers were the predominant reason children become bullies.
Like a large percentage of children I was bullied in grade school. My aggressor was a boy who came from a hillbilly family where the father ruled the roost with an iron fist and taught his son that it is fun to antagonize anyone that showed any kind of weakness, as determined by him, through his actions towards his children. The mother was another victim who, if she had stood up for herself and her children, could very well have ended up at the bottom of a well. It was a tough town.
I find it reprehensible for you, Merv, to be excusing the actions of the male species in such sad situations when it takes both parents, whether present or not, to raise a child. Mothers 'can' have a more nurturing effect on their children but how a parent, whether a mother or father, live their life and interact with society will be reflected in how those children view the world and act towards others.
Comment by Carla on 13th October 2012
This article is the truth. This makes me sad.
I aggree and thank you for writing this
Comment by kimberley wilson on 13th October 2012
I just wrote a letter about how important school is and I agree with you. Because there truly are way to many people in this world who disrepect and bully others and it has to STOP. Its so sad that such a beautiful and wonderful little girl had to die because of such people bullying her. Hopefully one day our world will have peace.
Did you really just say that?
Comment by Stacey Tyers on 13th October 2012
Okay Merv, most of the time I respect what you say and your right to say it. But did you SERIOUSLY just say since most fathers are beaten out of their family life??
I Posted on Facebook - Parents & Volunteers against Bullying
Comment by Merv Ritchie on 13th October 2012
There is little different here from the Rena Virk death in Victoria a few years back. The Bully, once again, was a girl who pushed spineless boys to do their bidding.
If the RCMP and society really wishes to address this issue they would look to the parents, primarily the mother, and her social behaviours. Children only want one thing, and that is to be like their mother or father. As most fathers are beaten out of their family life the common factor is the mother.
It is the women who can fix this or continue to allow their compatriots to antagonize and manipulate others.
Blaming the child is the wrong way to address this, and to only focus on "cyber" is also a distraction from the reality. Malicious social intimidation is the issue and it is learned by the child from our society, computers and facebook are simply another method.
We are all to blame. To accuse the child who did exactly what we taught them to do is a crime greater than the tactics she or he used.
Women can be leaders/matriarchs or they can cower like spineless men. Without women leading us properly and rightly we are all doomed to repeat this tragedy. Men are powerless to stop this. Only the women can fix this social disease. They must step up and take back their power, and that is not to be social demons but to be compassionate loving responsible mothers.
The sin of omission
Comment by MaggieJo Johnson on 13th October 2012
We are not only guilty of the things we do....but of the things we don't do.
And just as a foot note . . .
Comment by Merv Ritchie on 12th October 2012
Those of us who do not take action against the liars, are just as guilty as the liars themselves.
Complicity in this crime is silence.